It's Complicated

I think one of the hardest lessons we learn as adults is that love isn't perfect. It's rarely a straight line of emotions. Love is never simple. It truly is complicated. What starts out as love often gets convoluted into something else. But people sometimes hang on to a relationship that might not be right for them because they settle and accept that part of needs are being met by their partner. That's what I tried to do in my marriage but I couldn't settle for long. I got divorced because I wanted to find my soulmate. I didn't just want a "so-so" life partnership. But since then, I discovered that the grim reality may be that there's no such thing as a soulmate. Maybe you have to be your own soulmate and not worry so much about finding that in some one else. In my world, I have found that there are a lot of damaged souls out there. It's hard to accept the fact that you may never find the right person to love and love you back the way you need and want to be loved (because everyone's desires and needs are different) but by the same token, you realize that an imperfect love might be the love to teach you all that you really needed to know...