Say What You Need To Say

One of the things I've been practicing lately is the act of clearly defining to others what it is I'm feeling and what it is I want or need. Sometimes, that is difficult for me because I don't always verbalize what my needs/wants are or I minimize my own needs/wants and then find myself in unhappy situations. Communication is key in any relationship but, let's face it, it's not an easy key to use. We muddle our words. We say the wrong thing. We beat around the bush. We don't say what we mean. Then we wonder why we're not getting what we need or want. Sometimes we are afraid of expressing ourselves. Sometimes, the people we want to express ourselves too don't want to hear what we have to say. They do their best to minimize our feelings and disregard what we have to say to them.

Nonetheless, it's important to"say what you want to say" (John Mayer song) and then move forward. Your feelings, your thoughts, your needs and wants are just as important as anyone else's. Don't let anyone else TELL you anything different!