Trust and Honesty

I was at a restaurant the other night when a gentleman at the bar was talking about the demise of his 24 year marriage and how devastated he was. He stated that he was finally at a place of happiness after five years. He then proceeded to show me why. He pulled out his cellphone and brought up a picture of his new and very pretty girlfriend. He then said that he felt that without truth and honesty, you could not have a good relationship/partnership. I couldn't agree more. Some people might disagree because they may believe the old adage, "what you don't see, won't hurt you." Well, tell that to Tiger Woods and the countless women and men, who have been cheated on. Truth and honesty make up the moral fiber of a relationship. When you can't trust the person you're with, it's unhealthy and wearing. If you are the person that chooses to be dishonest, you are cheating yourself. People KNOW when they're being lied too. You can't be truly intimate with someone, if you withhold information (yes, omission can be considered lying) from your partner or change the facts to fit you. It comes down to this - TO BE CLOSE, YOU HAVE TO BE OPEN.

Go with the Flow

Last night was Conan's final show on NBC's Tonight Show. He only lasted seven months in this slot before having to say goodbye but he's not leaving with empty pockets and I'm sure, he'll have his own tv show again very soon. But this brings to light that nothing stays the same. Life is about changes, whether we like it or not. I remember reading an inspirational passage not too long ago. It said that we often face challenges because we choose to try and navigate our boats upstream rather than going with the flow. Isn't that true? We fight against the current and find ourselves exerting a lot of energy but not going anywhere fast. Imagine if we were able to just sit in our boats and just enjoy the ride of life? Go with the flow! That would be cool. But let's face, it's not easy. We resist and problems persist.

From a musical standpoint, I've been a bit depressed because I haven't written a new song in a while. I've picked up my guitar and sat with it for a while but I only get bits and pieces of a song. Not enough for me to get excited! Of course, it depresses me because, as a songwriter, I am at my happiest when I am creating. I haven't lost hope. I just keep waiting for life to inspire me. I know that when I least expect it, something will come. From my own experience, I know you can't force the muse so I'll wait patiently for the words to flow out of me. In time...in time.